Who says that Resolutions have to be declared in the first week of January? Not me. I like time to mull over. I like time to ruminate and define.
New Year's Resolution #2? NO MORE DISCLAIMERS.
What's a Disclaimer, you ask?
"My house is such a mess, I didn't have time to clean." vs. "Come on in, I'm so glad came over!"
"I would have made homemade cookies but I ran out of sugar." vs. Dropping off the store-brought version without comment.
"You probably already have plans but do you want to . . ." vs. "I am going to the park at 2, do you want to come?"
"I wanted to get you the gray, but I couldn't find it so I had to buy the green." vs. Simply including the gift receipt.
"I didn't turn out as good as it should have, I had to rip out the seam 3 times." vs. Not pointing out the flaws.
Another side of the disclaimer: being negative after a compliment or trying to downplay something great about myself.
You want an example of that?
Friend: "Your hair looks great."
Me: "It's all smoke and mirrors. I am the worst at hairdos." (I mean, what if I just said "Thanks!" instead?)
As I've thought about it, a disclaimer essentially does two things: 1) highlights negatives about myself or 2) turns the situation/conversation back to me - when it shouldn't be.
So, no more disclaimers.